Recently in the news, we’ve seen and heard a lot about sexting because of various scandals including now former Representative Anthony Weiner. I’m often asked the question is sexting someone other than your partner a form of cheating? (See my ABC interview above, where I answer this question) Many people say yes it is cheating. Most if not all relationships would consider sexting someone other than your partner as inappropriate behavior.
The question is why would you want to or need to send sexually suggestive pictures to someone other than your partner? What are your intentions? What do you want to get out of sexting someone else? Your motives answer the question, is sexting cheating.
Most people who send such messages to someone else are usually looking for something to happen. Sometimes they want to know that other people find them attractive, sometimes they get a rush out of flirting with someone else and sometimes they want to have sex with the person. At the end of the day, is whatever you get out of sexting someone else, worth jeapordizing your relationship. If you are serious about your current relationship, sexting someone else can only hurt your trust, connection and intimacy.